We balance each other out. Being the rational, logical mind in the relationship, he recognizes the importance of our balance and knows there's only room for one dominant head in the relationship, not two. But even still, there are times when I'm hurt and he tells me to toughen up. Gifted with the empathic ability to sense other people's emotions and underlying intentions, I not only sense his masculine need to protect me from hurt, I feel his pain and helplessness of not being able to protect me from emotional hurt.
He can physically shield me from a knife coming at my chest, but he can't shield me from a knife cutting my heart from the inside. It's ironic that his words directed at me could easily be turned back against him. Underneath his motive to save me from getting hurt lies a deeper desire to help me toughen up so he doesn't have to feel the pain of seeing me in pain, and worse, not being able to stop it.
Once I truly understood the psychological underpinnings behind the well-worn advice, I found compassion for those who told me to toughen up. Now, instead of cringing because I think they're trying to change who I am, I can see it for what it truly is, an attempt at pain avoidance and a well-intentioned though misplaced piece of advice. Nothing more.
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Being highly sensitive, your brain is hardwired to consider things from multiple angles. Use that to your advantage and consider the possibility that "toughen up" could mean strengthening your resolve to embrace and support your sensitivity. Instead of seeing it as a weakness, become curious about it and find ways in which it actually benefits you and those you love. Toughen up your wavering self-doubt and take a stand for your deep feelings.
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How many times have you felt such intense emotion and come out stronger on the other side? Do you know many others who wouldn't be absolutely crushed with half the amount of pain you've felt, and probably feel on a daily basis? Instead of trying to toughen up your heart, toughen up your determination to see the resilience in it. The next time someone tells you to toughen up and you feel that initial sting, you can thank them for reminding you of your sensitive strengths.
You can immediately reframe their meaning of "toughen up" to your own heart-centered benefit and toughen up your commitment to loving yourself and your sensitivities, recognizing how incredibly and quietly strong they make you. You can get her free guide here and learn how to transform your sensitivity into an empowered gift.
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Feb 04, Martin Braunton rated it really liked it Shelves: business. It also tells the story of one of New Zealand's prominent entrepreneurs, Michael Hill, and how he changed the retail landscape in the jewelry business. What I learned from this book that I could apply to my own business: 1. Know your customer, the product is irrelevant.
The word for work is "fun. It takes up to 10, hours to perfect a skill so do something that is fun. Challenges make you stronger.
Embrace them. Use visualisation. The author uses it to great effect. He achieves this through being in a blissful state created by transcendental meditation. Upon waking and prior to the evening meal.
Tell others about your goals. If you are going through a rough patch, you haven't failed until you quit. Read more and you will know more. Qualities in his staff: patience, dynamism, diligence, intergrity and passion. Great presentation counts for a lot. Ch 13 is excellent and needs to be re-read continuously. Life is about balance. Use the Pareto principle: C14 Give something back. Find your point of difference. Aug 09, Alison Powell added it.
Although he was successful he was unremarkable. The defining moment was when his house, that his wife and he had designed and built a lot of it themselves burnt to the ground.
Some relevant proverbs cited There is only one boss the customer. He fires everybody simply by spending his money somewhere else. Nov 19, Judith Symonds rated it really liked it. This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers. To view it, click here. The Michael Hill story is truly amazing. The thing that came up for me with this book was to do something that you love and enjoy.
To Assess my skills and do what I am good at and also to realise that the journey is not perfect. During the week as some things have happened I have been dis heartened and then all of a sudden the picture of Michael Hill standing on top of a shipping container full of shoes that they couldn't sell comes back to me. Michael's personality comes through in this book. W The Michael Hill story is truly amazing.
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When I was still at Uni I remember his store opening up in our town and his advertisements on our regional tv channel. Don't forget where I came from and be proud of my family heritage - no one else can claim my story, it is my story alone. May 30, Jacqui Allen rated it really liked it. It was interesting to hear inspiring stories from a successful business mind. I recommend this book to those who need a bit of a boost on their journey or a kick up the butt! Jun 27, Lukas Specht rated it really liked it.
Very interesting book where Michael takes on his Journey. I really like the part about how he tread his employees. Oct 07, Malena rated it it was amazing Shelves: read Inspirational and very easy read. Phenomenon rated it it was amazing Jul 18, Victoria rated it it was amazing Jun 28, Sara rated it really liked it Nov 03, Daniel Milmine rated it it was ok Dec 24,